Living Beyond Anger

Feb 21, 2017

By Roger Hollar

People generally get angry because a lot of little pent up frustrations finally reaches a boiling point. We expected something that we didn’t get or we got something we didn’t expect. BINGO! Anger sets in. If you are dealing with a family member who is in prison you may have loads of pent up frustration. Sooner or later that frustration rises to the surface and manifests itself in angry ways you might not expect. Here are a few truths to help you the next time you...

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The Love Note Challenge

Feb 13, 2017

By Ryan Northcutt

I recently heard a wife talking about how hard it is to maintain a marriage while her husband is incarcerated. She said, “How can we connect with only one 15-minute phone call a week?” She went on to explain that by the time she catches him up on what’s going on with the kids and the rest of the family there’s not much time left to really connect.

I had this conversation rattling around in my mind when I realized that Valentine’s Day was just...

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Moving From Overwhelmed to Overcome

Feb 06, 2017

I was talking recently with a wife whose husband is currently behind bars. Knowing she is working extremely hard to support herself and her kids, I asked her to describe in one word her experience of what life is like with a loved one incarcerated. With a softness in her voice that revealed a level of tiredness and grief she said, “Overwhelming.”

No doubt this is the experience of many who are in similar situations. If you are a family member with a loved one...

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Prisoner Runs Boston Marathon

Jan 30, 2017

Every time I go into a prison unit for a ministry opportunity I am always amazed at the talents and skills I see in the men and women there. I recently came across the story of Keith Giroux, a prisoner who ran the Boston Marathon on a treadmill while being locked up (Read Keith's story HERE). Keith has since been released but his story reminded me of the incredible God-given talents, skills, and gifts that lie behind the wire.

Whenever I see a prisoner's ability to draw, sing, or create it...

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Walking Through Times You Don't Understand: Part 3

Jan 16, 2017

By Roger Hollar

How can the horrible circumstances we face ever come to any good? We may question or reject even the most well-intentioned servant who tries in vain to comfort us. What possible good can come out of incarceration? We may carry on great arguments with the God of the universe trying to impose our opinions on how he should operate.

Again, we’re left with more questions than answers to such conversations. Where do we even start with our communication with God. We may not...

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Walking Through Times You Don't Understand: Part 2

Jan 09, 2017

By Roger Hollar

Struggling in the deep shadows of life does not disqualify us from God’s amazing love. We may feel anger at the loss of a loved one to incarceration or any other diversion we face. We may feel at a loss for understanding, but we need not feel the loss of God’s love, for he cares for us.

Such circumstances demand that we attempt to hear from the heavenly Father who had to watch His own Son, Jesus, suffer many indignities. This is especially important as Jesus...

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Walking Through Times You Don't Understand: Part 1

Jan 05, 2017

By Roger Hollar

Everyone struggles deeply with life in the shadows. Those are times when we cannot quite make out what we see. How do I walk through times when I don’t understand? No one expects to say goodbye to someone who was so close. Now they are gone. Incarcerated.

We’re left with way more questions than answers. Such circumstances demand that we attempt to hear from the heavenly Father who had to watch His own Son, Jesus, suffer such indignities as incarceration,...

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Dealing with the Anxiety of a Court Trial

Dec 05, 2016

Recently there was a warrant issued for my arrest. Someone stole my driver license number and used it while being given a ticket. A court date was set, but because I was unaware of it, I did not show up which resulted in the Judge issuing a bench warrant. The process to get this removed was tedious and tiresome, but more than anything else it was scary. Appearing in a courtroom created an unusual amount of anxiety inside of me. While sitting on the hard bench I asked the Lord, “What can...

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The Challenge of the Holidays

Nov 21, 2016

Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays are a challenging time for families of inmates. Your loved one in prison wishes to be with family. Family and children especially, wishes their loved one in prison could be at home. It is a time when families must work extra hard at staying thankful and grateful. Here is a portion of A Thanksgiving Day Prayer taken from a publication of Father Flanagan's Boys' Home piece. Hope it lifts your spirits and points you to the only one who can that, our Father in...

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Understanding the Public Defender

Nov 07, 2016
 

Having trouble understanding how a “Public Defender” (PD) works? It can be a little intimidating and overwhelming. Here are a few basic facts you need to know about the PD. 

  1. Public Defense Defined: Public Defenders (PD) are attorneys licensed to practice law in his/her state. Typically they are part of a voluntary pool of attorneys who have agreed to participate in the criminal court system. Only the judge can appoint a PD on your behalf. You don’t get to pick...
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