Walking Through Times You Don't Understand: Part 1

Jan 05, 2017

By Roger Hollar

Everyone struggles deeply with life in the shadows. Those are times when we cannot quite make out what we see. How do I walk through times when I don’t understand? No one expects to say goodbye to someone who was so close. Now they are gone. Incarcerated.

We’re left with way more questions than answers. Such circumstances demand that we attempt to hear from the heavenly Father who had to watch His own Son, Jesus, suffer such indignities as incarceration, mistreatment and even undeserved death.

There are two things the Father wants us to know...

1. His heart is stirred for His own.

Hear what He says in Hosea,

“Oh, how can I give you up, Israel? How can I let you go? How can I destroy you or demolish you [like a common enemy]? My heart is torn within me, and my compassion overflows.” (Hosea 11:8)

Again, in John 11:36, Jesus was weeping over the loss of his friend Lazarus and those around him said, “See how much he loved him!”

Oh, how the Father’s heart is stirred over our hurt and our pain. Oh, how he loves us.

2. Even if we understood “Why?,” it would still hurt.

We can’t think about such a thing as separation by incarceration without it affecting our feelings and emotions. We can’t bear the pain without the peace and we can’t grasp the peace without the pain. It is a paradox to us.

But know this, God is intensely touched by our hurt and he is standing with you in the midst of it, just as he stood by his Son, Jesus. He knows your pain. He hears your cry. He says to you, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28.

Its okay to take your heavy burden to him.

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